What Is Style?

Some girls are so certain of their style from the beginning.  I remember, in my young days, these girls stood out from the rest and were an inspiration to me.  I have been friendly with a lot of women throughout my life whose style has inspired me.  Whatever age and size, their confidence and their flair shone through. There is nothing more fabulous than someone who is comfortable in their own skin.  Style wise, they are such an inspiration and have no fear of looking a certain way or wearing something they really love and are not afraid of what people think, or say.

photographer – Viktor Hanacek

I loved nights out, in my younger years – the girls would turn up in their ‘get-ups’, which had been so meticulously put together.  Of course, these were the late seventies, early eighties – the time of big shoulder pads and “New Romantics”.  I also had a few mates who were “Punks” and “Goths” (now, that took time, effort and style).  I wonder what they are doing, and where they are with their “style”, now.  I don’t think you ever quite leave your young style behind as you get older –  it’s part of who you are. As we get older, we have had time to rehearse and practise.

Photo by Sabina Ciesielska on Unsplash

I like to think I have a little bit of an idea when I’m trying on things that don’t suit me – they just feel so “wrong”. For example, in my younger years, I had some “not good” moments with woollen dresses which made me look like a giant snowball – think the whole colour block thing doesn’t agree with me, and the odd (very eighties) rah-rah skirt.  This  was the first successful attempt to revive the mini skirt and, hands up, I was a fan at the time!   It wasn’t very forgiving if you know what I mean.

Photo by Lauren Fleischmann on Unsplash

Oh, and there was the odd bad hair-do just to add to the overall mix. I once came back from the hairdressers looking like Tina Turner which, as much as I love Tina Turner, this was not my intention or what I had asked for.  I think the hairdresser got a little bit carried away.

Me out for a saunter, in the direction of the pub! I do love “easy to wear” chilled out fashion that makes me feel good, though I’m not averse to a lovely little bit of dressing up!

I believe style in midlife years is continually a “work in progress”.  For example, I will see a great outfit on someone, or in a shop and love it.  Sometimes, I’ve been brave enough to ask the person where they had purchased it.  But, on me, it will either look equally good or really terrible.  I once read somewhere that style takes time and maybe that’s true. I believe, at this age, I am still trying to look good and that, for me, it’s on-going.  Some women make wearing clothes look effortless. Whereas, for me, alas, that’s not always the case!!!


Photo by Pete Bellis on Unsplash

I also believe it is very important to be comfortable, and know what suits me.  I’ve done this through trial and error, and taking good advice along the way from expert fashion stylists.  There is a lot of great “style gurus” out there.  I believe some of them are brilliant and give out great, constructive advice. But, I also believe that, whatever advice you read, you still must feel happy and relaxed in what you are wearing.  Because style is such a personal thing! We all know people who wear something because of the label or because they think, if it’s one of the most expensive, exclusive garments in the shop, then it will have to look great on them. Unfortunately, as we know, that’s not always the case.

Thank you for reading, let me know if you have any comments and please subscribe to my blog.

Alison x






  1. Beverley
    15 September 2018 / 11:16 pm

    Hi Alison
    I love that you are breaking the style guru rules with your double denim pic and your leopard print outfit pic (women over 40 shouldn’t wear leopard print apparently!) and I like your more casual fun style, I think it’s important as we get older to still experiment and have fun with fashion and not feel too constrained or restricted by what is deemed ‘appropriate’ for the midlife woman. I think fashion is a great way for us midlife women to express our personalities and make ourselves VISIBLE!
    Bev x

    • 15 September 2018 / 11:37 pm

      Hi Beverley,
      Thank you so much for your comment. This is my first ever blog post, so I really appreciate the feedback! You looked fab in the pictures at the Midster event and I hope you had a wonderful evening. It looked very glamorous. I really did miss seeing you all. I think it was such a “whirlwind” day in July, but we all seemed to bond with each other, which was fantastic. I agree with you that there should be no rules and whatever makes you feel good and comfortable is the main thing!!
      Take care

  2. 16 September 2018 / 10:16 am

    Hi Alison. Congratulations on your start. Blogging is an exciting journey. I started in 2017 after thinking about for quite some time. I am so glad I have changed an idea into the real thing. It is so creative and rewarding! I love inspiring others and getting inspired, just like you have so beautifully written here. Style takes time, is personal and a work in process. By blogging you embrace all three and that means you will inspire others and get inspired. Good luck on your blogging adventure! Love, Lieske

    • 16 September 2018 / 11:26 am

      Hi Lieske,
      Thank you so much for your encouragement and kind words. I too thought about taking the plunge into blogging for quite a while and now I’m here I’m so glad that I have done it and know I will enjoy the experience. I am getting a lot of inspiration from others which is key when you are just beginning and a little unsure.
      Thank you again and take care

  3. 16 September 2018 / 4:47 pm

    Hi Alison,

    Congratulations on launching your blog and your first post.

    I found you via Catherine Not Dressed As Lamb. She has been amazingly supportive of me too since I started blogging 18 months ago.

    We women of a certain age have a lot to say!!

    I’ll look forward to following you
    Sharon xo

    • 16 September 2018 / 8:48 pm

      Hi Sharon,
      I really appreciate you contacting me and following me on both my blog and Instagram. Catherine very kindly mentioned me in her latest post, which has been so,so helpful in every way – especially building my confidence!
      I have been following you both for a while on your blogs and Instagram, trying to pick up hints and tips. All of this is brand new (even social media). I loved your blog piece on social media by the way! I’m not used to putting myself out there, but the JD Williams ‘Midster day’ taught me a lot about myself. It really spurred me on to join Instagram and work on my blog and like you said in your piece, it’s ‘little steps’.

      Thank you so much again for your encouragement. I know I am going to really enjoy doing this. – you have all inspired me!

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